Getting Back on Track After a Wrong Exit

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When you find you are traveling down the wrong road or missed an exit in life, it’s never too late to course correct. Join Jill and LeAnne Taylor from the News on 6, as they talk about how you don’t have to keep going down the same road just because you missed the turn.
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Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Hi, it’s Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets, and the following podcast was taped three weeks ago when LeAnne Taylor from the morning show on News on 6 came to visit me and we had a sit down chat about course correcting. Basically what do you do when you are going down a road and you feel like you’ve gone too far, how to turn back around or how to get off on the next exit. And that was three weeks ago, and of course as you know if you are listening to this now, you know that our world has turned upside down in the last few weeks. So I’m going to go ahead and air this podcast, but last night I sat down and just wrote in my journal from my heart what I was feeling at the moment, and I actually started writing about course correcting from fear, going down the road of fear and how to get off on the next exit, and how to turn back around. And I just want to read to you the entry that I wrote in my journal last night, and then we will play the podcast. So, here goes.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I call my mom, who will be 80 this summer, each day to check on her. She has lived alone ever since my dad passed away 20 years ago. She doesn’t really leave her home unless she absolutely needs something at the grocery store. And that’s during this time of quarantine and stay at home mandates. She said something last week on the phone to me that stuck with me, and I cannot erase the picture out of my head. She said, “Jill, I feel like I’m watching a movie each day as I wake up. A movie that only God knows how it will unfold, and it’s because of that that I can choose faith over fear.”

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
And that got me thinking about choosing faith over fear, and I realized that when the first thing you see when you wake up is how the fatality numbers have increased, and how the stock market has decreased, it feeds the fear. When you go to work and you are told not to come back until further notice, your fear meter shoots straight up. When you are forced to shut down your business and look at people you love that have depended on that income to feed their families, and you also love their families, fear and sorrow grip you. When you are staring at a stack of bills that need to go out, but there is nothing coming in, your first thought is fear. When you have nothing to even compare this scenario to in your history database, you are paralyzed with the fear of the unknown. Fear is fast spreading. Fear grows only when we feed it, though. And it dies when we starve it.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
If you find yourself going down a road where you are gripped by thoughts of anxiety, take the next exit. Because the road of fear is a dark one, filled with feelings of dismay and discouragement. So take the next exit. At the next exit is when you will remind yourself that God has never not been faithful. That although you may be by yourself in your home for a period of time, you are never truly alone. It’s believing this even though you cannot see it at this moment. It’s only then that the peace that passes your human understanding will come. And that is faith. And I will choose that road of peace and faith any day over the road filled with fear and anxiety. We will get to the other side of this, and the sun will shine again. Brightly. Even if it feels like everything you hold dear right now is being stripped away at this very moment there is a breathtaking view on the other side of this that you cannot yet see. And that is where the faith comes in.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
We all wake up every day with a choice. What are we going to feed? The fear, or the faith? For the peace that passes all human understanding, choose faith.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Hi, and welcome back to CEOish, today LeAnne Taylor is sitting in for Kelly Smith, which is the biggest treat of all, not that Kelly’s gone.

LeAnne Taylor:
You do that every time, and I always … I love being on this show, I love your podcast, I love Kelly, but when she is gone, I’m your girl, okay?

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I just-

LeAnne Taylor:
It’s here, it’s documented, so Kelly may never take another vacation.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Kelly who?

LeAnne Taylor:
No.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Kelly who?

LeAnne Taylor:
No.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
But you’re so much fun, you’re so easy to talk to, and I wish you lived in this room.

LeAnne Taylor:
It’s funny, when we talked a while back and I was like, “Hey, can I come visit you?” And you’re like, “Yes, and I want to do a podcast.” I just really wanted to come, I wanted to kick my shoes off, I wanted to sit on your couch, I wanted to listen to you play your saxophone, and I wanted to … I was like, “Can we get lunch in?” Because I don’t want to go out, I want to sit in-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
She said that.

LeAnne Taylor:
Your office. And just-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
We did get lunch in.

LeAnne Taylor:
But see, lunch for me is like literally an egg roll.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah.

LeAnne Taylor:
If you fed me an egg roll-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
We’ve got egg rolls today.

LeAnne Taylor:
I would be fine. Perfect.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
We’ve got egg rolls, this is great. So this is going to be a short-

LeAnne Taylor:
Yep, a quickie.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
One, for somebody who is driving from south Tulsa to, say, west Tulsa.

LeAnne Taylor:
Yeah.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Okay?

LeAnne Taylor:
If you’re just … yeah-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah.

LeAnne Taylor:
Or you’re just doing a quick little … you’d only have like a couple minutes and you don’t want to-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah. A grocery store run and you’ve got air pods in.

LeAnne Taylor:
Yep, perfect.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Okay. So I was thinking yesterday, what happens when somebody goes too far down a road and needs to course correct? Because the reason I was thinking this is because I was driving back from Oklahoma City, and Jordan was driving. And she is self admittedly not a good driver, or … she’s-

LeAnne Taylor:
You don’t have a driver? Sorry. Because you know the big joke on the show, I do the morning show at Channel 6 and everybody thinks that Alan Crone picks me up. And we have this whole joke thing. It’s always-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I thought he did.

LeAnne Taylor:
No, he doesn’t.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I am ashamed of myself that I did not say who you were. I assumed that everybody knows who you are. I’ve got to start that over. This is LeAnne Taylor, the most well known news anchor probably in the United States.

LeAnne Taylor:
Oh, now we’re just way over the limit.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
LeAnne, how long have you been at Channel 6?

LeAnne Taylor:
I’ve been at Channel 6 22 years, I’ve been in Tulsa TV 36 years in April.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
36 years-

LeAnne Taylor:
Can you believe that?

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
In Tulsa TV. And you are still smiling.

LeAnne Taylor:
Oh, I’m loving it. I love what I do, I love … and I heard you speak, I get to go to my job every day.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah.

LeAnne Taylor:
And to have something that you love to do and I get to do. I wish I didn’t have to do it that early, because I get up really early and I’m at work super early because I do the morning show, but it gives me opportunities to be here with you like this.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah.

LeAnne Taylor:
And so I’m very grateful. But I drive my own car, I go to the grocery store, I go get my own dry cleaning picked up and everything, so-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Like you put the keys in and start-

LeAnne Taylor:
I do.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Your own car?

LeAnne Taylor:
I do. And I actually have to put the key in, I don’t have like a little button.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Right, right.

LeAnne Taylor:
That just tells you how old my car is, but-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Right.

LeAnne Taylor:
You’re driving back from Oklahoma City.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
So I was driving back from Oklahoma City.

LeAnne Taylor:
You were.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Jordan was-

LeAnne Taylor:
Jordan.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Because I was … I needed to do something in the passenger seat that required hands free. And she went too far. And she was on Ways, her map Ways, and I was on Maps, two different ones. Hers was telling her one thing, mine was telling me another, and she went too far. And I thought, do we reroute this or do we just get off at the next exit and do what we think we know? And I thought, oh, what a great metaphor for life because everybody holds onto something, they go too far when they really … they weren’t listening, they were listening to too many voices. Because we were listening … they were both out load, Ways was talking in some British accent, and Google was talking, and we could not hear the right exit to get off on because they were both going at the same time.

LeAnne Taylor:
At the same time, sure.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
And anything that happens, and I know you do the same thing, with anything that happens in your life you think how is this a lesson?

LeAnne Taylor:
Yes.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
For me and for my children and for everybody that’s listening. And so we went too far, and I thought, this is about course correcting. Because everybody thinks, “I’ve already gone too far, I might as well eat the rest of the cake.”

LeAnne Taylor:
Keep going.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I might as well go to Dallas and go shopping, I’m already passed my exit. And I thought the sooner we course correct, the less painful that it is.

LeAnne Taylor:
And the less damage is done.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah.

LeAnne Taylor:
Right.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
But people … the reason that we get off course is because you aren’t paying attention. You aren’t paying attention to what the [inaudible 00:08:02] voice is saying to you, you aren’t paying attention to the wisdom that-

LeAnne Taylor:
Or the signs.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
The signs! The signs.

LeAnne Taylor:
Literal and figurative.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah, literal … exactly. And so I started laughing because I was thinking, as I was turning this into a lesson and knew that I was going to be talking to you today, I know you love a good story and I have to tell you a quick story.

LeAnne Taylor:
Good.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
It involves you.

LeAnne Taylor:
Okay.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
It totally involves you and it’s really funny and I have not told you this story about course correcting.

LeAnne Taylor:
Okay.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
About three weeks ago, maybe four weeks ago now, you know I was in the Dominican Republic with my family.

LeAnne Taylor:
Yes, right.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
And we’d all gotten dressed for dinner, and gone down to the beach to take family pictures. That thing that you have to do when you’re at the beach.

LeAnne Taylor:
Right.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
And so we asked this gentleman who was on the beach with his family would he take our pictures? And he did, turns out he was third place on America’s Got Talent. We didn’t know that until we were leaving the next day and the hotel manager said, “Do you know who that was that took your picture?”

LeAnne Taylor:
And you’re like, “No.”

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I was like, “Blake Shelton? I don’t know.” He was the nicest guy. So we took our family pictures, and then the room that we had was on the first floor and you literally walked off your patio onto the grass onto the beach.

LeAnne Taylor:
Right.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
It was right there. And so I went and walked up with my phone, and I sat back on our long patio, and I started to text you. And I was voice texting you, and two other people. And you and I went back and forth for a while.

LeAnne Taylor:
A while.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
And it was about, oh, 30 minutes I was sitting there with my feet propped up, and I thought why isn’t anybody asking me are you ready for dinner? And so I thought until they come out, I’m going to keep … and so you and I were talking back and forth, but I was voice texting this and I just remember thinking, this is the nicest half hour, not one person has come out-

LeAnne Taylor:
Has bothered you.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
To say, “Mom, where’s this?” Or, “Where’s that?” Like I can’t believe I got a half an hour of … you know, even when you’re laying on the beach on vacation there’s-

LeAnne Taylor:
There’s always an interruption.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Always stuff going on, so this was just … I loved it, I could talk as loud as I want, nobody was coming out. And then I thought, okay, it’s been 30 minutes. You said to me, “Go put your feet in the sand.” We ended our conversation and I thought, okay, I’ll go inside and see what’s going on. And so it was a long sliding glass door, and I opened the door, it was one of the hardest doors to open, you just kind of had to pull it with both hands and your body into it. And then there was a sheer curtain, and then a heavy curtain. And so I opened all of that up. There was our bedroom, and then there was the living room, sliding glass door, and then there was the girls’ room. All in sort of just this little condo like place. And I opened it and I walked in, I walked all the way in, and I need to go to the restroom before we went to … do people still say restroom? I don’t know.

LeAnne Taylor:
You just did, so-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah.

LeAnne Taylor:
So yes, they do.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah, I did. I needed to go to the restroom before we went to dinner, and I walked into the room, and I screamed. I mean, screamed so loud that I’m surprised they didn’t hear it at the main restaurant. I screamed and then I looked in my bed where Terry and I sleep, and I saw under the covers was a man in a yellow shirt, and he was on his side and looking at me.

LeAnne Taylor:
In your room?

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
In my room. And I said, “What do you think you’re doing?” And so I wasn’t quite at the foot of the bed yet but I had walked all the way in and I looked at him and he just looked at me and didn’t say anything. And I said, “What do you think you’re doing?” And so I thought … our toilet had been messed up, so I thought he was maintenance that had come and gotten in our bed, he was wearing this bright yellow shirt. And so I thought this is the freakiest thing, I was waiting for somebody to jump out and say, “Just kidding! This is … ”

LeAnne Taylor:
You’ve been punked.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah. And I thought this is weird, I was having just a very … everything started to get foggy, like I was going to pass out, because nobody was coming out. So I left, I went back outside where I had been sitting, and then I pulled open the door to go in the living room. Walked in the living room, I was going to go find Terry. And I see who I think is Peanut race to where she heard the scream. And I said, “Oh my gosh, Peanut’s going to see the maintenance man in our bed and she’s going to scream.” So I was standing in the middle of the living room and in my head I went three, two, one. I literally did that waiting for her to scream and that she was going to come back to me. And she didn’t scream, nothing. And I thought did he capture her?

LeAnne Taylor:
Now I’m worried.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Is she working on the toilet with him? And so I’m looking around the room and I think somebody cleaned up our living room. And then I thought and we got a new beach bag.

LeAnne Taylor:
Oh …

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
All of this is happening very quickly, but slow motion in my brain. And then I walked back out on the patio and this girl in a blue and white striped shirt with straight black hair walks out and looks at me and I said, “What do you think you’re doing? What’s going on?” Knowing at this point that I probably was in the wrong room.

LeAnne Taylor:
Condo, yeah.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Condo. And I said … but I was so embarrassed and I said-

LeAnne Taylor:
Sure. I’m going to keep with this.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I said, “What is going on?” And then you hear what I think was somebody speaking in Japanese. And I don’t know Japanese, but-

LeAnne Taylor:
If it’d been Russian we’d been much better off.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yes. But I did go to Tokyo on a layover one time for like 30 minutes and it sounded like that, a lot like that. And so she’s staring at me, he’s still laying in bed on his side staring at me, and I said, “Something is going on here.” And then I thought, it’s over. Surrender.

LeAnne Taylor:
Yeah.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I was so off course that I had to get off at the exit. And I said, “I need you to know, you might not believe me, but your room and the way that it’s on the corner of this building looks exactly like mine. Exactly.” Didn’t say a word. I walked … I mean, maybe 100 feet over to my corner, my entire family is sitting there waiting for me to go to dinner.

LeAnne Taylor:
And-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I started to cry. Not because I was that upset but because it was just … I was overwhelmed with what just happened? And they said, “Where have you been?” And I said, “Where have you been?” And so literally 10 minutes later I’m still sitting out there just in shock on our patio, now. And I see a yellow shirt coming around the corner.

LeAnne Taylor:
Exactly, I was going to say so this cannot end.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
A yellow shirt, and Ireland’s 15 and they are mortified by like when you speak. Much less when you walk into another-

LeAnne Taylor:
Stranger’s apartment.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Two different rooms and yell and say, “What do you think you’re doing in my place?” And he walks around the corner and then comes this girl, and then comes what looks like his wife, and then maybe another child, and I said … knowing that he probably didn’t speak English, and I said, “Do you see? It looks just like yours. Exactly. It’s a corner, this patio looks like yours.” And he said, “No, no. Okay, okay, okay,” and then he kept going. And it was really a good lesson for me that there was nowhere else I could go, I had to turn back around and course correct, and the quicker I did that, the better. But I had to tell you that story-

LeAnne Taylor:
Oh, that’s-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Because you and I … you dragged me into that.

LeAnne Taylor:
If I had left that text alone everything would’ve been better. How in the world did you get … were you transported from where your condo?

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
This is what happened-

LeAnne Taylor:
Did you wander? How did you-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I got a text from you on the beach after we finished our pictures. And I am texting you, looking down.

LeAnne Taylor:
And walked right on back.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I walked straight onto my patio, sat down and voice texted. So I’m surprised they never came out-

LeAnne Taylor:
In that whole time.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Because they heard me.

LeAnne Taylor:
Right.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
But I have you to blame for that.

LeAnne Taylor:
I’ll just say I’m sorry.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Well, think next time.

LeAnne Taylor:
Actually I should probably feel really bad for that man and his family.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
What do you-

LeAnne Taylor:
Because they’re like do you see that … because they’re on a podcast right now in Japan, and they’re having this conversation, and he’s like, “And this blonde lady who looked like Suzy Ormond was just carrying on and kept telling me, ‘What are you doing?'”

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Papa Bear, what are you doing in my bed?

LeAnne Taylor:
That’s awesome.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
So-

LeAnne Taylor:
That’s awesome. And you know what, but I think that’s … you’re right. I’ve got to cut my losses and get out of here.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah.

LeAnne Taylor:
But then I’m thinking, you can’t, Dominican Republic, that’s not … you’re going to run into him again.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Exactly. But when we were sort of going down the highway, I think … and we didn’t get the exit, I thought the tendency in life sometimes is you just keep going and going because you’ve already committed to that road. But it’s not the right road.

LeAnne Taylor:
Right. And I think there’s a Casting Crown song right now that says, “You can’t go back, but you can turn around.” I mean, you don’t have to keep doing what you’re doing, whatever that is. If you’re making bad decisions, if you’re having conflict, whatever that is, stop and turn around.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah.

LeAnne Taylor:
And change that direction. So that the destruction, whatever that is, will end.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah. You can minimize that by stopping, but people think I’ve already started, I might as well just go the whole way. It’s what we do with eating. I’ve already eaten 20 Oreos, I’ll eat 40. What’s the difference?

LeAnne Taylor:
Well, it’s that sleeve, if the sleeve is not empty-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
The sleeve. The sleeve of Oreos. But I had to tell you because-

LeAnne Taylor:
I love it.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
You were part of my story of course correcting, but we always like to leave everybody with a little encouraging word. Will you sing that Casting Crowns song? You sing, you were in Miss America.

LeAnne Taylor:
I was not. I love your … we need a fact checker when we’re with you.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
We don’t have any. No fact checkers here.

LeAnne Taylor:
I can totally understand now why-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
What was your talent from Miss America?

LeAnne Taylor:
I did sing-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Okay.

LeAnne Taylor:
And I wasn’t Miss … I was Miss Oklahoma, I was in the Miss Oklahoma, but yes, I was a singer.

LeAnne Taylor:
“What if you could go back and relive one day in your life all over again, and unmake the mistake that left you a million miles away from the you you once knew.” Makes me cry.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
And the first runner up.

LeAnne Taylor:
Yeah. Swimsuit winner but not talent, that’s okay. That’s all right.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Well what a great reminder, you can always go back.

LeAnne Taylor:
You’ve got to turn around.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
You’ve got to turn around.

LeAnne Taylor:
Yeah.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Course correct. Course correct. You can always course correct, and even when you have to course correct, it still is part of your story, part of your journey. Even when you have to turn around, let God use that.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
LeAnne, will you come back?

LeAnne Taylor:
Always. I would like to be your like once a month guest.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
You can be my once a week guest.

LeAnne Taylor:
Oh, well thank you, I-

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
We’ve got nothing going on here. And you’ve got nothing going on.

LeAnne Taylor:
Well, yeah, exactly.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah.

LeAnne Taylor:
This is my nap time but I’d much rather spend it with you.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah. Thank you for being here today.

LeAnne Taylor:
My pleasure.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
I know you have many, many things to do like nap right now, since you got up at 2:00 in the morning, so it is our privilege that you would choose to spend that time with us.

LeAnne Taylor:
Thanks for the invite.

Jill Donovan of Rustic Cuff Bracelets:
Yeah. Thank you for listening to CEOish, we’ll see you guys next time.